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Aired by BBC1 on Monday 13th January, ‘I Want My Baby Back – A panorama Special’, may give us all pause for thought.
As a father and grandfather, I have seen many times, children in my care to become over excited or playing roughly and bouncing off the floor and walls. It is part of everyday play, whether they are cowboys fighting indians, or saving the universe from intergalactic robots, they will sometimes hurt themselves. Only when they get changed, are the bruises revealed. How many of you out there have felt people will think you are abusing your child if they see the bruises? I was a tree climber, a good one. My legs were always black and blue and my mother, on occasion, wondered if people would ponder what went on in our house.
Here in the United Kingdom we have a comprehensive social services system, essential it is too! It is a fact that some children are abused, and they desperately need protection. Our Social Services department though seem to hit the headlines in a big way when they get it wrong.
If any of you out there are going through this dreadful process, it is essential that you consult expert child custody solicitors. You cannot defend yourself in these circumstances.
Panorama addressed several specific cases where children were removed from their families for, what may be considered, as dubious circumstances. At a glance, these cases seem outrageous. ‘There but for the grace of god go I’ is the thought that many parents must feel when learning of these cases.
I fear that the featured family’s stories though, are just a drop in the ocean. For all of the good work they do, Social Services may be making mistakes every day and destroying families. Taking away from parents, their entire reason for living and permanently damaging the child’s feeling of security at home.
Take the case of Amy’s son who had multiple fractures. Taken into care along with his elder sister only to be returned home after several weeks. Were it not for expert representation, Amy’s children would never have been returned to her. She was powerless and railroaded by the system.
Now we need Social Services; they do an essential job. The do help and protect abused children. They are, however, only human, and if they suspect harm even without evidence then they must investigate. Sometimes this can lead to overzealous mistakes.
Then comes what, seems to me, to be a horrible flaw in the system; time. From an outsider’s point of view, it makes my blood boil. The time it takes to get a simple decision. Waiting another week to speak to someone. Another assessment that can’t be carried out until next month. All the time more harm is being done. It is quite shameful. All the stops should be pulled to find out whether that child is genuinely at risk as quickly as is humanly possible, not so it fits in with the directors diary. If mistakes have been made by the social worker, or abuse disproved, get that child home where they belong without delay.
Maybe it is time that the whole system is looked at again. Yes, remove a child if abuse is suspected, of course it is the right thing to do. Then, in that child’s interests, keep the parents informed and represented from day one. Set the machine swiftly in motion and give these cases the urgency that the children need. Provide the parents with a valid avenue of appeal to go down when they know they are innocent.
Panorama has shown that for some of us, the citizens of this country, the system is faulty. Thank heavens for the people who go to court in defense of such miscarriages.
This may be a simplistic view as I am an outsider but then again, most of us in this country are outsiders. So the director of Social Services would do well to cut short that business lunch and get back to work, before the British people hold him/her to account. This simply cannot go on any longer.
Where is the solution to creating healthier family and home? Often, parents believe that a dog may bring structure, discipline, and activity to family life. Yet as a new member of the family, dogs create more responsibility and issues than you anticipate.
Rather than taking a drastic step with an animal addition, find other solutions that encourage health, productivity, and more active lifestyles for every member of the family no matter what age. When wracking your brain for ideas to raise healthy eating and exercise awareness, follow these suggestions.
1. The Art of Gardening
Have you seen the bumper stickers, “Will Garden for Food”? The popularity behind gardening, especially communal all natural gardens, has risen dramatically over the last few years. As lawmakers, health professionals, and parents become more aware of terrible foods and unhealthy habits, they have turned to change their family’s eating habits.
This transition involves gardening. Often gardeners are more aware of the food they eat. They prefer all natural and organic produce that’s untainted by distant mass producing farmers. Children and parents alike take more of an active interest in what goes into creating food. Therefore, they tend to read more of the ingredient labels on products at grocery stores. Why would you eat ingredients that seem foreign and artificial?
Before spring rolls around, look to join a community garden or start an elevated herb and vegetable garden in the backyard. This home project keeps the children outside and active. Teach someone to garden, they’ll never go hungry as long as there is enough water, sunshine, and you keep the animals away.
2. Use TV Time to Learn How to Cook
Take the time to teach your children how to cook. Maybe you didn’t benefit from parents who cooked all time growing up. It’s not late to learn as a parent. There are various culinary education resources available. For example, you can enroll in cooking classes together. Weekend cooking classes won’t take much time, you’ll have a blast, and there’s no better quality time to spend with your kids.
If you don’t have the time or local cooking classes that fit into your schedule, watch PBS or the Food Network. The Food Network offers endless opportunities to learn how to cook basic and complicated meals. Practice new dinners, side dishes, and desserts together with the kids. Use the television for educational purposes that the kids will love. When looking to purchase good cable or satellite TV, you can find great deals to save money. For example, see what is available online for Kansas Direct TV offers
3. Teach Children How to Shop for Groceries
Parents must take a similar approach that local restaurants do when focusing on farm-to-table policies. After you’ve taught your children about gardening and growing their own produce, given them a chance to cook, and then educate them on healthy and intelligent grocery shopping.
It’s not only important to teach them how to save money when comparing prices at stores, but make them aware of reading ingredient labels. Educated them about the negative artificial ingredients often used in processed and boxed foods. Smart shoppers make healthier decisions.
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You’ve probably seen all the news articles recently written by top psychologists claiming that January is the most depressing month of the year for most people. Well, I saw those too, and so I thought maybe it was time for me to write and post a short article highlighting some of the most effective ways of ensuring your entire family remains positive and happy this year. Let’s face it; some people are just more prone to getting the blues, and it’s those people I’m trying to reach out to. I know all too well how terrible you can feel from time to time, indeed, my medical records will show a heavy usage of antidepressants to prove it, but if I can stop one single parent from visiting their doctor for “happy pills” this year, then writing this post will have been worth it.
So, the first thing you really need to think about is your diet. It might be fine eating takeaways and food high in sugar most of the time, but in a month when people are bound to start feeling a little down, this should be avoided like the plague. Instead, try buying some fresh fruit and veg, as this is certain to lift your mood considerably. Here are some other suggestions for making sure the whole family stay happy all year round.
Arrange Educational Trips Together
Over ten years ago now, our previous Labour government made all the state-run museums in the UK waive their admission charges, and so it’s possible for anyone to visit them without having to break the bank. You might consider a trip to London if you really want to make your kids smile, as there’s more museums there packed tightly together than anywhere else in the country. Make sure you at least try the British Museum, the Natural History Museum and the Science Museum if you don’t plan on visiting anywhere else. You’ll want to set a full day aside though, because those places are pretty large.
Visit A Psychic Medium Together
Unless you’re a total skeptic, booking a family session with your local psychic medium or clairvoyant could provide some rather encouraging results. During a family session, they’re unlikely to give you any negative information, and instead, should provide you with some useful tips for the near future. Your kids will love the experience, and you too could benefit from the information you receive. If you’re not too sure about this one, why not give TheCircle.com Psychics a call for a taster of what’s in store.
Exercise Together & Get Fit
Every doctor worth his salt will tell you that exercise in by far the best way of lifting yourself from a low mood, and so arranging something fun with the whole family could be perfect. Sure, you probably do want to stay away from gyms, but there’s no reason why you couldn’t have a truly fantastic time on long walks around your local woodland or dedicated area of outstanding natural beauty. Plus, you could even take a ball along and turn it into a game if the kids don’t seem too enthusiastic about walking long distances.
If you give at least two of those suggestions a try, I guarantee you’ll all feel much better over the coming months. 2014 is going to be incredibly busy for most, so making plans now and setting time aside for stuff like this really is essential.
I wish you the best of luck folks!
Christmas is definitely one of the most stressful time of the year for those generous (or silly?) people who agree to make dinner for the family. Although it’s also without question one of the best times of the year – who doesn’t love being surrounded by family, good food, and booze? However, with everything to remember and a lot of people to impress, the stress can all get too much and Christmas dinner can end up going awry. Sound familiar? Well fear not, because we’re going to give you plenty of helpful tips to make sure you have a memorable, stress free dinner next Christmas!
Make Sure You’ve Got The Appropriate Utensils
By appropriate, we don’t mean the cheapest sets you could find off eBay. Try to buy a good set of saucepans, a decent set of knives, and a good roasting tray. Although this will cost you extra, in the long run you’ll be much less stressed! It won’t hurt to purchase a few quality napkins either, to protect your guests from spills and other food and drink related accidents.
Cheat a Little Bit
Don’t feel bad if you want to make your life easier by cheating a little bit. Use store bought sauces, and maybe even buy ready-made pigs in blankets. You’ll save time, energy, and your guests won’t know the difference!
Prepare The Day Before
Prepare as much as you can the day before, so you don’t get yourself in a tizzy when the guests arrive. You can peel your vegetables, boil your potatoes, and more!
Cook Surprising Sprouts
Does anybody really like sprouts? You will when cooking them like this!
- Stir Fry chopped sprouts in a pan.
- Add chopped garlic, bacon bits, and black pepper.
- Serve when the sprouts are still a little firm.
Sprouts and bacon make perfect partners, so don’t hesitate to try it next time!
Tips to a Terrific Turkey
The turkey is one of the most important parts of the meal, so you need to get it right.
- Get the turkey to room temperature before putting it in a pre-heated oven.
- Use tips from your favorite chef; Jamie Oliver, Nigella Lawson, Gordon Ramsay, etc.
- Always, ALWAYS, leave the meat to rest for a short while before carving and serving. It’ll become deliciously juicy!
Make Sure You’ve Got Enough to Drink
You can never have enough booze come Christmas, as your relatives will surely prove to you as they drink themselves into a drunken stupor. Make sure you’re stocked up on wine, cider, non alcoholic drinks like juice, and even water! You could even try creating your own mulled cider:
- Heat through a quality cider, then add some cinnamon sticks, the zest and juice of an orange and lemon, a vanilla pod, a few cloves, and a sprinkle of sugar.
- Once it’s all hot, allow it to cool down and infuse the flavours for 30 minutes.
- You can then reheat, strain the liquid through a sieve, and serve to your guests!
Little touches like stir fried sprouts with bacon, and homemade mulled cider will give you brownie points with your guests and make your dinner the most memorable one yet!
The right to bear arms is a fundamental right of every US citizen, and owning a gun for self-defense is practically a necessity in the modern world. Storing guns in the home when you have young children can be a difficult situation as you need to strike a balance between keeping the gun accessible at a moment’s notice whilst also making it impossible for small fingers to accidentally stumble across a loaded weapon. Most gun experts advise that the safest way to store a gun is to keep it unloaded and locked up in a separate safe from the ammunition. However, attempting to locate both gun and ammunition from different safes while intruders are kicking down your door wastes valuable time and will most likely end with you losing possession of your firearm. Finding a safe yet secure place for your weapon is an essential part of home defense and could possible save you and your family’s lives.
Quick Access Safes
Gun safes that offer biometric technology are an ideal way to keep your firearm safely locked up yet accessible at a moment’s notice. They can be bolted to the wall or floor to protect them from theft and are secure enough to be stored in your child’s nursery so you can head straight there in the event of an emergency. Fumbling around in the dark with combination locks or keys could waste valuable seconds, but with biometric systems the safe springs open at the touch of your hand. They use fingerprint technology to ensure you are the only person with access to the safe and feature deep grooves in the casing to guide your fingers in the dark.
Life jackets provide extra protection by covering the action part of your firearm allowing you to transport it securely or store it outside of a safe without having to worry about accidents. The jackets come in many different sizes and Guns America carries a wide range that caters to every type of weapon. Many people use them in addition to a gun safe to provide extra security, but this will make it more difficult to access your firearm in a hurry.
If you decide that the safest way to store your gun in the house is to keep it on you at all times, then a secure holster is probably going to be the best option for you. Secure holsters keep your weapon locked inside the holster which is then firmly attached to your body and cannot be drawn by attackers or anyone else without first releasing it using a series of buttons and levers. They may seem complicated at first, but once you are comfortable with the method of release it will soon become second nature.
To carry a concealed weapon you will first need to apply for a concealed weapons permit, and make sure you familiarize yourself with the gun laws in your state. A firearm is one of the most effective ways to provide protection for your family in the event of a home invasion, but your weapon is only effective if you are able to reach it quickly.
Milton Zane is passionate about safety. He frequently writes about realistic concerns and gun protection and safety.