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Mom-To-Be: 5 Things to Make Life with Baby Easier

Your belly is growing, and the anticipation is now sky high. You spend your time reading and watching materials that will help you feel like you know what you’re doing once the little one has entered the world. Want to know a not-so-secret fact? All those tips are valuable, but they might prove useless as well. It all depends on the baby and your dynamics, as you’re about to see. Common denominators, though? Development, sleepless nights, and a lot of stress. Sorry for saying this! We know you’re heading to the most exciting period of your life so far, but we would be doing any new mother a disservice if we told her it’s rainbows and butterflies. Because of that, here are five things you can do beforehand to make those first months easier!

1. Set Up the Nursery

You are going to spend a lot of time in the nursery, so make it as convenient for yourself as possible. Diapers and wipes should be kept close to the changing table; it should be close enough to the cabinet where you keep the baby clothes. Remember, going into the nursery will require a lot of dizziness from being woken from sleep, low light, as you don’t want to upset the baby, so take that into account. You won’t always be able to rely on finding things on the spot, so just act as if you will never be able to do that! Know where everything is well in advance, so when the baby comes, you’ll feel like you already know what to do. (Well, not really. But kind of.)

2. Stock Up on Food – Particularly Easy Meals

The person who invented easy meals should be awarded a medal. Honestly, you won’t have much time for cooking, but it doesn’t mean you should resort to pizzas all the time. (You could, but that probably doesn’t provide many nutrients to your baby!) Your freezer should be full of things that only require a quick defrost in the microwave, or alternatively, ready-to-cook meals that also only need to be reheated. We’re talking sausages, tikka masala, all kinds of stews, soups, pancakes, muffins… Smoothies are great as well, so to save your time in advance, prep smoothie ingredients in separate Ziploc bags, so once you feel like having one, put the contents in the blender with water or milk, and voila!

3. Set up Baby Leaving the House Stations

An image of a new mother and the things she carries around when going out with the baby is close to a meme. That’s because you truly do need everything! So to avoid losing and forgetting things, dedicate some things for an emergency and then forget about them. We’re talking clothes, diapers and socks that you will keep in your car and inside of your stroller. You will need a stroller that offers good storage, such as those from Maxi Cosi, and you will never have to panic when your child pukes in the park, but you have forgotten a spare shirt or a onesie.

4. Think about Diapers

We didn’t say “get tonnes of diapers” here because chances are that you will get a gazillion of diapers and then it will turn out that your baby isn’t a fan of the specific brand or type. But do your research and get small packs of as many different types as possible in newborn size – this is literally a trial and error practice. Once the baby arrives, and you find the perfect match, set up a subscription, so you are never left without a number of diapers at home.

5. Say Yes to Help

Parenting is beautiful. It’s also very hard. We get that you probably want to enjoy the new family of three (or two, or more) and keep it to yourself, at least in the beginning. But when friends and family ask you if they can come over or even stay a couple of days, don’t be quick in saying no. Yes, your house is going to be messy and you will probably smell bad. But having someone over almost always means they will offer to do laundry for you, or go shopping for groceries or just take care of the baby so you can shower for the first time this week. Accepting help is not a sign of weakness, quite the opposite. Accept it from those who have it easier in this stage of your life. After all, a shower is a blessing.

We hope we’ve given you the right hints on where your attention should go right before and right after childbirth. It’s going to be stressful, but targeting these things will be helpful, at least in the beginning. And it gets easier, we promise! You’ll realise it when your child turns three.

A Guide to Helping Children to Cope with Divorce

Divorce (and the separation of cohabiting parents) typically lies on a spectrum of “mildly unsettling” to “utterly horrendous” and the fact that the UK does not currently recognise “no-fault” divorce creates additional challenges for those who are trying to manage an amicable separation, even though the legal process of divorce in the UK has a fundamental principle that the welfare of any children must be put front and centre at all times.

While members of the legal profession will do everything they can to minimise the impact on children, at the end of the day, the main responsibility for the welfare of children lies, as always with their parents. With that in mind, here are three suggestions which might help.

Have a solution prepared before you tell children the problem

Create a plan of action for you and your partner, so you are both clear on the way forward, before you tell your children. This is less about focusing on the positives of the change, as, from the children’s perspective, there may be absolutely none, but about limiting the negatives and, crucially, emphasising to your children that you remain united as parents.

NB: It is a sad fact of modern life that the more people know about something, the more likely it is that children, even younger ones, will get to hear about it, or at least rumours of it, via social media. Even if you limit your children’s access to social media (or ban them completely from using it), the reality is that they will almost certainly interact with children who do have access to it and who will pass on the gossip to their friends as people do. With that in mind, it’s strongly advisable to be very careful about where, when and with whom you discuss your feelings and plans.

Underline the fact that the divorce is about you and not about them

It can be very tricky to decide just how much to tell children, even older ones. You may wish to take the approach of telling them the truth and nothing but the truth, but not necessarily the whole truth. There is, however, one fact which must be underlined in all situations which is that the divorce is about you and your partner as individuals, not about you and your partner as parents. Not only does that mean that you will both expect to have the same relationship with your children, but it also means that you will continue to work together with regards to the practicalities of parenting, such as setting ground rules for behaviour and ensuring that they are enforced.

Keep change to a minimum

In a sense, keeping change to a minimum is a way of making good on your promise that this change is only going to affect you and your partner as individuals, rather than having a negative impact on your children. If you find yourself having to make unwelcome changes to their established routine, then you are basically demonstrating that your divorce is going to have a negative impact on them.

K J Smith Solicitors are family solicitors in Reading, specialising in all aspects of divorce and separation in including finances on divorce, family mediation, cohabitation agreements and collaborative law.

5 Things You Should Do To Become a Good Parent

 

There is so much in writing of how you should raise kids in the world today. Unfortunately, not many know how to take care of their children. Of course, raising the children is the most difficult task that is on this planet.

It is not that easy. No matter how much effort you put in from your end, things can go haywire as they can get influenced by other factors.

You can, however, follow certain guidelines to ensure that they grow strong and healthy. You can choose to follow the same instructions even if you want to foster a child. Here is a list of things that you need to plan on doing to raise kids.

1. Encourage Them To Dream Well

Many of the teenagers have this instinct in them wherein they would like to become a musician, dancer or undertake other similar jobs like that. It is vital for you as a parent or carer to help them understand this is not something anyone can become with ease. Only a small percentage of people can achieve this dream.

The construction and health industry is always in the boom. There will be a lot of requirement for labor in these particular fields. By encouraging them to pursue courses related to them, you can help them to achieve their goals of becoming big in life.

Besides, helping them get a good education, it is necessary for you to also allow them to participate in extracurricular activities. You never know where they will end up if there are sufficient motivation and support.

As a parent or carer, it is vital for you to discuss with them about these things with some proofs. This way, they will not end up chasing a wild dream.

2. Eat Dinner As a Family

One of the best ways to increase the bonding in your family is when you start to eat dinners together. People are too busy and do not get any time to spend with their families. It is not a good thing. Since breakfast and lunch are something that you cannot have with your family if you leave home early and eat lunch at your office.

Instead, you need to plan on meeting and eating dinners together. It will help you to stay connected. You will know what is happening in their life and it is the best time that you have to counsel them.

3. Reduce The Screen Time

These days children are spending a lot of time watching the screens, be it be the television or the tablet or a smartphone. It is going to affect the children’s mind. It can impede their abilities to focus or stay attentive. They might not like to mingle with other kids and people outside. It is wise to not show the screens to kids that are under 18 months. Children above that particular age or those who are of two to five years should watch the screen for only an hour in a day. This way, you will help them to focus on the right things.

If the kids are above this age, you need to ensure that they watch it as necessary. Most importantly, it is essential for them to get adequate sleep, complete their home works, and exercise before they indulge in watching anything.

You should plan on having them play with other kids in your area or take them to functions or parties within your community so that they get to learn about other kids in the area.

4. Make Them Do Work

Many parents and carers do not assign household chores to the children thinking that they will feel tired after completing those tasks. Instead, you should plan on making them do some household chores. If you do this thing, it will help the children become self-reliant and independent. If you are busy at work, they will know how to clean up the house or make a simple snack.

5. It Is Okay To Fail

It is vital for the children to know that it is okay to fail. You should let them know that it is okay. You should understand that it is going to make them strong and will help them realize that they are not going to win always.

Ask them to identify the mistakes that they did. Ask them to work on things that they are lacking so that they become successful. Children become more confident when they achieve something after a failure. Kids who always achieve things will know how to cope when they fail in something.

Tricks for Dealing with Fussy Eaters

 

 

It’s hard enough for you to eat your own vegetables let alone getting your kids to do it. Kids would be perfectly happy eating chicken nuggets, cereal, and pizza every day. Everyone can use many more servings of veggies and fruits in their day, especially young children who need the nutrients for proper development.

Unfortunately, kids can be fussy eaters with any type of food, even the ones you think they would like! Here are a few tips and tricks for convincing (or downright tricking) kids into eating what you need them to.

Before we get to fussy eating and drinking behaviours, one special category is taking medication. It’s difficult and uncomfortable for many kids to ingest a pill whole. Vitamins come in easy to chew and flavourful formats, but regular prescriptions from their doctor can be hard to swallow. Pharmaceutical compounding is a service provided by some pharmacies that customizes medications by creating specific doses, formulations, formats, and flavours to make them easier to take. Pills could be chewable or transformed into a liquid, given an appealing taste, or turned into a topical application. You can learn what a compounding pharmacy can do for you here.

Hide & Eat – Try sneaking foods into things that they like, like peas and carrots into mashed potatoes, or more fresh berries into a yogurt snack. Serve a smoothie or a 100% fruit pop instead of a salty snack. Cook up some vegetable fritters instead of French fries. Pureeing vegetables and fruits is another good way to sneak extra nutrients into another recipe you’re making. Changing the texture can make things more palatable as well.

Bargaining – Yes, it’s one of the stages of grief, and it can work for getting your stubborn little one to eat at least some of their healthy side dish. Make a deal that if they take x-number of bites they can stop. Or they’ll get to enjoy another food they prefer if they finish that small pile of grilled vegetables first. Try to avoid doing this frequently with desserts, but if all else fails, a cookie is a powerful motivator.

Mix it Up – Provide variety on their plate of multiple kinds of vegetables rather than forcing them to eat a giant glob of spinach or pile of broccoli. Learn if they prefer a raw or cooked version. Veggies can be more palatable with a healthy dipping sauce or dressing. Cooked veggies can also be with a bit of extra flavouring. Remember that juices are not nearly as healthy as the real thing, especially when it comes to fruit juice, which is essentially sugar water.

Share your Plate – Kids always seem to have their eyes on your plate instead of theirs. Put some of the things you wish they were eating on it and offer to share.

Realize the Benefits – Encourage eating through talking about the benefits of healthy foods. Relate these qualities to a familiar character from a book or TV show they like. ‘If you eat all your carrots and broccoli, you’ll grow to be as strong as Batman, you know.’

Cut Down on Snacks – A good point for adults to remember, too. Eating too much in-between meals will spoil an appetite, and calorie requirements are being met by less desirable foods instead.

Let them Help – Kids will be more excited to eat something that they helped prepare. Plus, it’ll give you a fun activity to do together and a chance to teach them about recipes and nutrition.

How to Budget for Meals and Food

 

 

Ever gone into a grocery store hungry? It’s one of the most important things to avoid when trying to save money and when trying to avoid impulse buys. When you’re hungry in a grocery store you’re likely tired, agitated, and attracted to all sorts of foods that you didn’t plan on buying. When it comes to the amount of money you spend on food, some simple budgeting techniques can go a long way.

How Much Are We Spending?

According to Statistics Canada, the average Canadian household spends about $214 per person per month on food, excluding going out to eat. For those who are single or live in remote parts of the country or cities with high living costs, that number can be even higher. Some financial advisors recommend that consumers budget between $200 to $250 per person for grocery money each month. If you also get your toiletries and household items at the grocery store, you should bump that number up a little bit.

How Much Can You Spend?

When the holidays and special occasions come around, we typically spend a little more on food. If you want to know how to budget for holidays, click here to learn more about how to spend wisely during that busy time of year.

Aside from the times when we tend to spend a little more, there are professionals out there who suggest that a family of four can comfortably aim to spend only $125 per person per month on groceries — that adds up to over $2,000 in annual savings. Being able to plan for those kinds of savings can be a real lifesaver in any emergency financial situation.

When money’s tight and something comes up, not having an emergency fund can cause undue stress. The good news is that resources like online payday loans from GoDay can give you that extra cash before your next payday comes around. Knowing that there’s options, however, doesn’t mean you should forego healthy grocery budgeting.

Use Rewards Programs

Rewards credit cards that offer cashback and loyalty programs can really take some of the edge off of your grocery budget. Learn the rules of your rewards system inside out so you don’t get caught with any unexpected fees or surprises and so that you can maximize your benefits.

Look for things like sign-up bonuses but don’t get carried away— overspending and getting caught in debt is not a positive step towards financial planning. Also, be wary of coupon madness. While some bargains might seem too good to pass up, if you don’t actually need the food, then it’s not a bargain. Be smart with your points and spend strategically using the right credit cards when budgeting for your groceries.

Plan in Advance

One of the most impactful things you can do to shrink your grocery budget by up to 25% is to plan out your meals and go to the grocery store with a plan in mind. Plan to eat vegetarian every once in a while: produce is cheap, healthy, and can go a long way if you know what to do with it. Lay out a plan and stick to it and you’ll be amazed by how much you can save by spending smart on food.

Becoming Parents Through Surrogacy

If you’re having trouble conceiving in a traditional way, it can be very stressful and disheartening. There are other options out there. One that is growing in popularity is becoming a parent through surrogacy. If this is something you are interested in, but you’re not quite sure what is involved in the process, you’ve come to the right place. In the following post we will discuss the steps involved becoming parents through surrogacy in San Diego.

Figure Out if it’s Right for You

Before you start looking for a surrogate or anything like that you need to think long and hard about whether you really want to become a parent through surrogacy. You need to be aware that it can be a very emotional and long process and it’s a huge commitment.

Therefore, it’s vital that you don’t rush into it and look at the pros, cons and local laws. It may be a good idea to speak to a variety of different surrogacy professionals to figure out if it’s right for you.

Educate Yourself About Surrogacy

Another part of the surrogacy process is educating yourself as much as you can about surrogacy. For instance, you might not realize it, but there’s actually two kinds of surrogacy. These are:

Traditional Surrogacy – This is a type of surrogacy that involves the biological mother of the child she is carrying. Her own egg is fertilized using the intended father or donor’s sperm.

Gestational Surrogacy – In this type of surrogacy, the child is not biologically related to the surrogate mother. Instead, the embryo is created from an egg of the donor or intended mother and sperm from the donor or intended father. Once fertilized inside a lab, the embryo is then transferred into the surrogate.

You also need to be aware that there are two kinds of surrogacy professionals:

Surrogacy Attorney – This is required in order for the legal work to be completed for a surrogacy arrangement. They may not offer the same services as a surrogacy agency.

Surrogacy Agency – These agencies often perform all surrogacy services, including case management, legal, counselling, support, matching and screening.

Finding a Match

Perhaps one of the most crucial and exciting steps of the whole process is, of course, finding the right match with the right surrogate. If you already know someone who could be your surrogate, you might only need to find a suitable attorney who specializes in assisted reproductive law. If you have yet to find one though, you will probably use the help of a surrogacy agency to find one.

Intended parents work with a surrogacy professional to establish their plans for surrogacy. Based on these plans, they will develop a profile to show to other surrogates. When the surrogacy agency has found a match for their profile, they will discuss if they are interested in finding a match. If both parties want to move forward, they have a chance to get to know each other better through meetings, emails and calls. If all goes well, they will make it all official by drafting up a legal contract.

The Fertilization and Embryo Transfer Part of the Process

Once the legalities have been sorted and contracts signed, it is then time for the medical side of the process to begin. This part will be handled by a pre-agreed upon clinic. The egg donor or intended mother is given medication that helps develop eggs and then go through the egg retrieval process. These eggs are then fertilized in the lab to make an embryo that can then be transferred into the surrogate. After a healthy pregnancy has been confirmed, and there is a heartbeat, the surrogate will receive prenatal care, along with her compensation.

 

 

Benefit from Real Savings with the Kroger Free Friday Download

Are you a fan of Kroger? Most, it seems, are. That is with good reason, as you can get your hands on some great bargains from the wide variety of different departments there. Whether you are looking to buy general groceries, seafood and meat or personal care and beauty products, you can easily find what you need at Kroger stores and from their site too. However, even at the extremely competitive prices that items at Kroger retail for, we are sure all of you reading this love getting a bargain.

Kroger are actually well-known for offering their regular and loyal customers great bargains and money saving offers, as standard, particularly if you obtain and make use of a Kroger Rewards Card. However, one of the best money-saving offers, by a long chalk, is the Free Friday Download.

What is the Free Friday Download?

This is an offer available using the Kroger Rewards Card or the store’s amazing app, that offers a different item for free, every single Friday.

What Kinds of Items are Covered by this Offer?

The fun and exciting thing about this deal, is not just the chance to save a couple of bucks here and there on essentials you always buy when you go shopping. The Free Friday Download deal also offers you the chance to try out something that you may not otherwise have bothered, completely free of charge. To give you an idea of what you could get through the Free Friday Download scheme, it might interest you to know that such items as Reese’s Outrageous Bar, Forto Coffee Shot 2 fl.oz, Candle-Lite Company Jar Candle 3oz and Hormel Compleat’s are among those previously offered.

Although the deal is generally for free cereal-related items, snacks, candy and drinks – you never know what they will try to promote next.

Is it Just Kroger Stores that Participate?

That is a very good question, because although there are Kroger stores throughout the country, you may not have one in your local vicinity. That does not mean, though, that you have to miss out on the Free Friday Download. As long as you have a store, like a Ralph’s, Pay Less, Owen’s, King Sooper’s, Grebes, Fry’s, Dillions or another brand that is a Kroger Affiliate. You can benefit from the deal in any of those stores, though it is important to note that it will always be subject to an item actually being available.

Obviously, they are as not as long-running as other offers, but that is again, all part of the excitement. If you tend to shop on a weekly basis, it means that you are going to be able to buy four to five free items every month, which over the course of a year can save you a considerable amount of money.

So, if you like saving money on your groceries, and are already a fan of the Kroger or Kroger affiliate stores, but have yet to try the Free Friday Download deal, click here to find our more.

Benefits of a Diaper Subscription

It is definitely a time of joy and happiness, bringing life into the world. With childbirth, comes so many milestones, so many firsts, and just a whole lot of great memories that you will cherish. Seeing your children grow into, hopefully, healthy, smart and successful adults.

It is also incredibly hard. You often do not have enough sleep, have to deal with huge piles of washing and untidy home. One particularly unpleasant aspect of having children though, and there is no point in beating around the bush or trying to be polite, is diapers. They really are a necessity, but also the cause of lot of stress, mess and are very expensive.

Therefore, if you have children or waiting on the arrival of a new-born, diapers are something that you need to give consideration to, even if you’d rather be looking at pretty blankets and little outfits. However, it is definitely something you need to think about and the sooner you have a plan in place, the better.

One way you can get round the huge amount of stress and cost involved in diapers is by investing in a diaper subscription. That might sound silly, but trust us, it’s a great way to save money, time and effort on diapers.

If you are still on the fence about diaper subscriptions or are completely new to this type of thing, we are going to look at some of the biggest benefits of investing in them.

Saves You Money

Children are expensive. There is no way of getting around that fact. And one of the most expensive aspects of having children is diapers and diaper paraphernalia. In fact, in the US, the average family spends more than $1500 every year on baby diapers, wipes and other associated accessories. By investing in a subscription for diapers though, you could save more than $600 yearly. Having children is a very expensive business and as diapers are one of those ongoing expenses that you have to pay, a subscription is a great option.

Driving to the Store to Pick Up Diapers can be Inconvenient

Ask anyone who has already had children, you may even have experienced this yourself – late in middle of the night, when hardly any stores are open and you run out of diapers, so need to drive out to get more. This can be a big inconvenience. With a subscription though, you don’t need to worry about it.

You Will Never Run Out of Diapers

Following on nicely from the above, it can be a real pain getting caught short when your little one needs. As noted above, no-one really loves having to race to the local store, especially if it is late at night, during the night and even more particularly, if you have the baby plus smelly current smelly diaper in the car with you. With a diaper subscription though, you no longer have this worry. You will never be without clean and fresh diapers for your little one.

 

5 Backyard Games to Enjoy with Family and Friends This Summer

A lot of people today spend so much time cooped up in their room playing video games or streaming on Netflix. Such a small amount of time is spent, if any at all, outdoors playing with other kids or enjoying a good ‘ol fashioned barbecue with the neighbours.

All of that should change this coming summer and you can start by playing any of these awesome backyard games. So let’s say that after so many years and countless First Home Buyer’s Guide articles you pored through, you finally have a house and are planning an awesome party. Let’s remind friends and family how exciting it is to drop everything you’re doing to play outside.

Water Balloon Dodgeball

A fun twist to an old favourite, this game is pretty self-explanatory. Load up balloons with water, team up, and get ready to dodge like your life depended on it. You can invite more people to join this game and turn it into your little backyard tournament. Limit the number of people on the field to maybe four or five, and around four teams. The winners of each elimination round will then compete each other and win the title of “Best Backyard Dodgeball Team.” Just remember not to aim for the face, and wear protective gear if you have them.

Picnic basket relay

Divide everyone into teams and give them a complete picnic set, which includes: plates, utensils, glasses, and even food. Each team member must set up a picnic as fast as they can and the put it back in the basket. Once they are done, the next player needs to do the same. The team who can finish the fastest wins.

Try to avoid using materials that will break easily just in case people get too excited and accidentally drop plates and glasses.

Reverse charades

For this version of charades, only one person in the team is guessing. Other members will pick from your pool of topics or phrases. They will not act it out though, instead they will form a picture and freeze, a bit like a tableau. Then the team member will have to guess what the ‘picture’ is. You can do themed charades so that it is easier for them to guess the picture like movies or songs.

Treasure hunt

Do this “Amazing Race” style. Which means you will have to prepare riddles and tasks that the teams will have to figure out and accomplish. The goal is for them to form a puzzle or look for an item around the house. Make sure you go wild with it, too. You can hide items in places they will not think you will make use of and ask them riddles that will really mess with their wit.

You can limit the team members to three or four, and around four teams only. When you are setting up the tasks, make sure there instructions and guidelines so that the game remains safe to play.

Stop Dance

This is the perfect game to show off those dance moves. Everyone joining the game should partner, face each other, with a whole page of newspaper laid out in front of them on the ground. The rules are simple: they will start dancing once you play music. When you stop the track, they should stand on the newspaper, making sure that both of them are on it. After each round, the players will fold the newspaper in half, and then they will start dancing again once you play the song. This goes on until only one pair remains.

So clear up the backyard, call all your friends and family, and get ready for an awesome summer bonding!

5 Must-Follow Car Safety Tips For Families

 

 

When you have a family, it is important that you make sure that they are safe at all times. One of the most dangerous places for your family to be is in your car. Accidents can happen very quickly and so you need to be prepared for anything that might come up. In this article, we’ll talk you through some tips for car safety for your family. Keep reading if you’d like to find out more about this.

Make Sure Everyone Has A Seatbelt

When you are in a rush, it can be easy to forget to check that all of your kids have their seatbelt on. In fact, some parents spend so much time worrying about their kids that they forget to put their own seatbelt on. This is something which you should avoid if you want to keep your family safe. On top of this, you should never have more people in the car than there are seats as this can be very dangerous.

Check Your Airbags

Most cars these days come fitted with airbags but once they have been used they might need to be replaced. It is very important that you make sure that the airbags in your car are properly functioning and that they are going to save you if something happens. If your airbags are very old, then you might benefit from having them checked out.

Check Your Horn

Many people think that car horns are only used for telling off other drivers when they cut you off but they are actually there for safety. Car horns can alert other drivers to your presence and they can come in very handy when it comes to preventing an accident. You should make sure that you get your car horn replaced if it is damaged and never drive without one.

Keep Young Kids In The Back

Another great safety tip for families is to make sure that small children sit in the back. The airbags that are fitted in the front of your car could seriously damage a small child if it were to hit them which is the opposite of what you would want. Make sure that you keep any kids who are under 12 in the backseat where they will be safer.

Stay Calm

Our final tip for family car safety is to remain calm at all times. When your kids are energetic and making a lot of noise, it can be easy to get distracted or agitated. If you are driving, you need to make sure that you are entirely focused on the road, so you can’t have a lot of noise and people moving about in their seats. If you can convince your kids to stay calm and you can do it yourself, then you’ll be driving a lot more safely.

Follow our tips if you want to make an effort to keep your family safe when going for a drive.