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All parents want their children to be happy, well adjusted, independent individuals who are in charge of their own destiny. It’s what we would want for ourselves after all, and those attributes are certainly some of the traits we’d love to know our children are endowed with. But we all make mistakes and sometimes those mistakes can have an effect on the way our children turn out. Of course we don’t mean to, but as they say, ‘the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree’.
You can’t force shy children to become confident, gregarious outgoing individuals overnight, but you can teach them confidence and self security, it’s just a case of breaking habits and changing points of view.
Don’t Pass On Phobias
When they’re born, babies are only frightened of falling and loud noises. All the other phobias that they experience are leaned responses. If you’re scared of spiders your child is almost guaranteed to be as well. If you can act not being frightened around them, your children won’t pick up the fear. If you can’t even pretend not to be afraid, look into cognitive behavioural therapy for yourself. If you can cure your phobia everybody wins.
Lay Off The Pressure
It can be incredibly frustrating to watch your own child hang around the outsides of a social group but forcing them to get involved is counterproductive and damaging. If their natural response to groups is reluctance, then telling them that it is ‘wrong’ to be shy will only make them feel bad about themselves. Children will naturally flock together, but sometimes it just takes time.
Teach your child to give compliments, so long as they mean it. In How to Win Friends and Influence People, Carnegie tells us we should always give compliments to everybody, even if it isn’t any advantage to us. It just makes people’s days and they’re better disposed toward us in the future.
Back complimenting behaviour up with examples. Every night, when you tell your kids ‘goodnight’ add ‘you’re awesome’ or remind them something they did that impressed you that day. Such a lovely thing to go to sleep on.
Sharing Really is Caring
Teaching your kids to share has to be one of the most important factors in creating a balanced, likeable child who will grow into an adult with similar qualities. As well as sharing, it’s also important to teach them that sometimes other kids won’t want to share, and that’s OK too. They might be doing something really important or just having a bad day and want to keep things to themselves.
‘Helicopter parenting’ refers to parents who hover around their children when they’re at play, ready and waiting for something to go wrong so they can dash in and come to the rescue. Ostensibly the child is confident that they won’t come to any harm, however, helicoptering actually impedes development as the child never learns from mistakes. Let them do their own thing, let them fall down. They will get up and they will learn what they did wrong and how to avoid repeating it. Of course, you can make sure the toys and other things they’re playing with are safe and good quality. Read reviews on sites like toddlersstuff.com. They also have some useful advice for parents.
The Prize Plaster
Kids do fall over all the time. If they get cuts and grazes, treat plasters like a little prize for being brave. If they’re not afraid of getting hurt then they will be more adventurous and self-confident. Don’t worry that treating plasters as rewards will encourage your children to engage in dangerous risk-taking behaviour; the pain will teach them that it’s not a good idea to be repeated, they just won’t be afraid to try new things.
Don’t Fight Over Food
When they’re little, children have virtually no control over anything that happens to them. One thing they can try to control is their diet. To the frustration of every parent, a food that was perfectly acceptable one week will be the cause of hours of teatime argument the next. Instead of trying to force a child to eat something they don’t like, simply tell them “you don’t have to eat it”. Rather then prepare a plated meal, serve the elements of the meal separately. If they don’t want cabbage or broccoli, but hey do want carrots and potato, let them choose that and have as much as they want. You won’t have to worry that they’re not getting enough to eat and you won’t be fighting with them every day.
Of course every child is different and any or all of these recommendations might not be suitable for your particular situation, however, it’s worth bearing in mind that in any given child-rearing situation, there are options and the most obvious to you might not always be the way that works best with your kids.A
We read a lot about preparing for your first child. What equipment will be needed, how to baby-proof the home, how to plan etc. In some respects you might be feeling like a bit of a pro by the time your second child is due. However, there is much less written about preparing for a second child, though this also requires a lot of thinking and planning. Many mums worry about how to prepare their toddler for a new sibling. How will he or she cope with a younger brother or sister? How will you manage to get them both up and dressed each morning? What about meal times?
A Change in Focus
The last time around you were starting from scratch. You didn’t know what baby products to buy, how to prepare your home, how to decorate the nursery or what to expect. This time will be different. You have the knowledge and experience from the last couple of years. You can now change your focus and work out how to incorporate a new little person into the family unit. And if you need a bit of a refresher of preparing for a newborn this article will jog your memory.
Preparing your Toddler
There is no need to tell your toddler straight away. For a toddler, nine months might as well be nine years. Tell them nearer the time when the event will be more immediate. Involve them as much as possible. Ask for their help and involve them in sorting out the nursery or toys.
Enjoy this Time Together
Soon your threesome (or twosome) will be coming to an end. You will have a wonderful addition to the family but the dynamic will change. Make the most of this time together. Celebrate the days when it is just the two or three of you. Plan some special activities you can do as a family.
Prepare in Advance as Much as Possible
This is easier said than done. Try and prepare in advance as much as possible. If you have time, cook and freeze some meals to keep you going for the first few weeks. Accept help. This can be difficult for some people but if there are family and friends around you who are willing and able to help, let them. Listen to these mums talk about their feelings when preparing themselves for their second child.
Bringing the Baby Home
Think carefully about the birth itself and how to handle this with your toddler. When they come to visit you in hospital, remember that they will have missed you. It may be a day or more since they saw you. Make a fuss of them and tell them how much you have missed them.
Try to arrange to take the new baby home together so that you all arrive at the same time.
Include them as much as possible. Allow them to sit with you during feeding. Make sure it is clear to your toddler that there are times just for you and him / her. During these times say openly to the baby that you’re helping your toddler right now.
Above all enjoy these times together. They go so quickly. Cherish the time you have with your toddler and then celebrate the new member of the family when he or she arrives. It can be a challenging time and there will be stresses and strains. But it will also be a beautiful and joyous time. Remember to celebrate that.
Being a mother is always a huge responsibility irrespective of whether you are working or not. You tend to be so busy that sometimes you just feel like taking some time off to offer a moment to your self. This doesn’t mean you are trying to run away from your responsibilities, it just means you are willing to take a break now and then, in order to cool off your mind.
You can achieve that through online bingo as it is a great way to unwind yourself and have some excitement without making an effort. There are various benefits of playing bingo as a mom but I will just list down the two valuable one’s:
A great way of relaxing:
It proves to be great outlet of fun as along with playing bingo you get to socialize and make new friends with the same mindset. You don’t have to step out of their comfort zone to experience a game of bingo. They can easily access all the games even while doing the daily chores.
Win rewards effortlessly:
Online bingo proves to be a great way of earning money. The wide variety of websites available online are offering tempting rewards to all their players in the form of cash prizes, gift voucher and bonuses. You can even play free bingo and get a detailed overview of the site before converting into a depositing player. All you have to do is sign in to enjoy these impressive offers.
So, whenever you want some time off just sign in at New Look Bingo to experience the best free bingo offer with an extensive collection of games.
The age of toddlerhood can be the best and worst of times for a parent. On the one hand, you have a cute little person saying and doing the most incredibly funny things. On the other hand, you have a little person who is willful, emotional, clumsy, and noisy. Life’s not easy for either of you at this stage. And to make it even more challenging, this is the time when your baby becomes a little boy or girl.
Growing up suddenly becomes something you can envision for your baby at this age. You might already be imagining what kind of career they could lead. Your baby is about to take an enormous leap into independence, and will suddenly be taking care of themselves more and more. This can be tough for Mothers as they realise they are needed less and less.
It might all start with walking. Those few tentative steps will become high speed running around the park in just a few short weeks. Then they’ll be climbing the slide, and daring to venture ever higher on a climbing frame. There will certainly be a few heart-in-mouth moments for any parent!
Then comes the final goodbye to babyhood. Potty training will be the first step to freeing you of diaper changes forever. It’s one of the biggest milestones of Motherhood! But not all of us are certain our little ones are ready. And figuring out how to get a toddler to sit still and not make a mess is another challenge we have to face. Fortunately, there are lots of helpful guides out there like Potty Training Solved to help.
While your little one may not be dry at night, training pants replace the diapers pretty quickly, and the transition has completed. It’s hard to believe all of this can happen in the space of just a few months. And it will certainly feel like a rollercoaster ride too! So how can you make all these changes happen more smoothly?
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Preparation for each of them is key. As soon as your little one is standing up, it’s time to encourage those little legs to step forward. Hand holding will soon reduce, and the first unaided steps will lead to thousands more in just a couple of weeks. Doing new tasks over and again makes it easier for your little one to master them. Find opportunities in their everyday activities to encourage a few steps across the room.
Walking as often as possible with a harness for safety will help. Their stamina will build quickly but be prepared to carry them some of the way at first. Eventually, you can say no when you know they can manage the distance.
Once walking is established, it’s time to get familiar with the potty. Talk about it often, especially at changing time. Eventually, your little one will be interested enough to have a go. Perhaps Teddy needs a try first? It may be a long process, but you’ll both get there when you are both ready.
Preparing for these important milestones helps you make the most of each opportunity as it arises. It helps you be ready for those moments when things are about to change forever. Exciting times!
While the diverse nature of physical and mental disability in the UK is often misunderstood, there remain some facts that simply cannot be disputed. There are an estimated 11.9 million people in the UK who currently live with a disability, for example, which equates to a relatively surprising 19% of the entire population. This number includes a number of children and young adults who live with a disability, as numerous families in the UK create coping mechanisms that enable them to deliver the best care and quality of life to their loved ones.
Parenting with Disabled Children: The key considerations when buying a car
One of the key challenges facing parents and guardians with disabled children in their care is securing a viable mode of transportation, especially one that suits the physical needs and demands of their dependents. With this in mind, here are three considerations for parents when sourcing and buying a suitable family vehicle: –
What Mobility challenges does your Child’s disability cause?
There are numerous types of disability, varying both in terms of their nature and level of severity. Before entering the market for a new car, it is therefore important that you evaluate your child’s disability in detail and determine the main mobility challenges that they face on a daily basis. This will help you to determine the precise specification that your chosen vehicle needs, whether a standard car will suffice or you find yourself in need of a specialist, modified design.
The Extent of any Modifications that are required
If your child’s disability causes genuine mobility concerns, you may need to invest in a modified vehicle. Fortunately for today’s generation of parents, technological advancement has created a vast and diverse range of modified vehicles, each of which includes a number of purposeful specification changes that have been made without comprising the aesthetic design or performance of the model. While this is excellent news for parents, however, it is crucial that you enter the market with an in-depth understanding of your child’s needs and the extent of the modifications required to meet these.
What size of vehicle do you need?
Ultimately, it is impractical for many families to own any more than a single (or in some instances two) vehicles. This means that the majority of parents cannot buy a modified car to sit alongside their standard, family vehicle, so there may be a need to invest in a specialist model that can cater to the needs of all adults and children. So even though you may only have one children who lives with a disability, you will need to consider all financial and logistical demands and purchase a modified vehicle that is large enough to carry multiple passengers simultaneously.
To most parents, there is nothing more important than the safety of their child. While many parents worry about their children’s safety away from home, many do not realize that more kids are actually more likely to be injured or hurt at home due to an unintentional accident.
Because most of these accidents can be prevented, here are 7 ways to ensure that your home is safe and healthy so you can have save, healthy, and happy children:
- Online Safety
Because so much information is given online nowadays, it is important to keep your children safe when using the computer. It is all too easy for your child to stumble across something he or she shouldn’t, or to accidentally give out information they shouldn’t. Take some time to teach your children how to be safe when using the computer, and if your children are still young, make sure computer time is supervised. Many kids can be manipulated into giving out pictures or passwords to online hackers or predators. For more information on safety blocks and parental controls, read here.
- Bathtub Safety
Many parents are aware that young, small children can accidentally drown in a bathtub, but many are as aware of the danger of hot water. If the water is too hot, your child could actually be burned by scalding water. Babies and toddlers can be scalded in a mere few seconds if they are exposed to water at 140 degrees and higher, thus, before placing them in the tub, make sure you test the water.
One of the most common injuries experienced by children each year is window injuries. Windows that are not properly secured, whether by guardrails or child safety locks, can lead to serious danger for your children. Your windows should be secured with child safety locks, and if they are open, it is in your children’s best interest to install guardrails. While screens can marginally prevent injuries, if a child pushed hard enough, they could break a screen, leaving them in danger of falling. Another serious threat to children are cords on blinds and shades, as toddlers and babies can accidentally strangle themselves.
Steep stairs can be extremely dangerous for babies and toddlers, thus it is important to have safety gates blocking any entry to stairs. Because it is easy to slip on stairs at any age, once your children are old enough to use the stairs properly, remind them to be careful how quickly they go up and down the stairs.
Cleaning products and other items, such as cosmetics, medications, vitamins, mouthwash, rubbing alcohol, etc., should be placed in a locked cabinet that is out of reach of children. If ingested, these items can have severe consequences, which can have permanent effects. Should anyone accidentally ingest these, make sure to call poison control immediately.
- Fire Safety
Fires are extremely dangerous and can spread quickly, which can leave your family in trouble should a fire break out in your home or nearby. One of the best ways to prevent fires is to make sure your smoke detectors are in good working order. All homes must have a smoke detector in each room, and while new smoke detectors chirp to let you know that their batteries have died, older smoke detectors might not. Just to be safe, you should test your smoke detectors every six months to a year.
Additionally, when it comes to fire safety, it is important to teach your children the basics of fire safety. It is instinctual for children to hide during a fire, but that can hinder a firefighter’s ability to find them, thus it is important they know what to do if a fire breaks out.
- Carbon Monoxide
Similarly to a smoke detector, you can purchase a carbon monoxide indicator. In fact, new smoke detectors often come with a carbon monoxide detector included. Because carbon monoxide is colorless and odorless, without a detector, it can be nearly impossible to determine whether or not it is in your home. Carbon monoxide can be deadly, as it can prevent oxygen from reaching the brain. Make sure your heating system is working properly, and that any other appliance that uses natural gas is in good working order.
These 7 tips can help keep your family safe and healthy.
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We all know that children are naturally creative, but if you’ve ever wondered which activities in particular are great for unleashing your child’s imagination – look no further. Here are a few ideas to keep your children happy and creative for hours. Maybe along the way you’ll rediscover your own inner child!
Easy Origami Animals for Kids
With some basic skills and a little bit of imagination, origami can transform the simplest bit of paper into a sophisticated creature. A few folds here and there and you have a duck, a dog or a rabbit. Don’t worry if you fear that origami is beyond your skill level (let alone your child’s). There are many good origami kits for children to get you started, such as this easy origami animals for kids guide.
Storytelling & Illustrating
Encouraging your children to write stories as well as read them is a great way to improve your child’s writing and reading skills. Talk about what characters they like or ideas for events. Once you’ve come up with a story together, make a concertina booklet out of a piece of A4 paper and get your child to illustrate each section with parts of the plot. For a more guided way of developing your child’s creative writing skills, the Descriptosaurus Books by Alison Wilcox are a great starting point for putting images to ideas, and helping kids write creatively step by step.
Allowing you to construct whole cities, farms, space stations with little blocks of plastic, it’s no wonder that LEGO has endured the generations as one of the most entertaining toys for children. It’s a great way of unleashing your child’s imagination by giving them the ability to build whatever towns, vehicles, and houses they like. If you have more than one child, why not hold a spaceship building competition? If you’re feeling cooperative, build a city together. Just don’t get too precious about your model city and remember to share.
We all know that the most fun activities for toddlers are often the messiest – and it doesn’t come much messier than painting. So cover your tables and chairs, unleash the washable paints, and unroll the paper. You don’t want to just limit yourself to brushes: try hand painting, sponges, potatoes – whatever you can find. You might even end up with a pretty picture you can tack onto the fridge. Just make sure you have a good cleaning up policy afterwards.
Messy? Yes. Yummy? Yes. It’s a dream combination for a toddler and it’s an exciting way of teaching them the all-important skill of cooking. Once you’ve baked a cake or a dozen cupcakes, the fun part of decorating can begin. Give your child a variety of options – food colouring, edible decorations, chocolate chips, hundreds and thousands – then let them go wild. For a more structured approach, work together to decorate your cupcakes to look like a famous children’s character or an animal.
One of the highlights of any birthday or Christmas is receiving a card with a smiley-faced stick figure on the front with the word ‘Mummy’ or ‘Daddy’. Making homemade greetings and birthday cards are as fun to make as they are to receive, and a great way to nurture your child’s inner Picasso. While you’re the designated scissor-cutter, supply as many decorations as you can spare — glitter, ribbons, felt tip pens, sweet wrappers, paint, stickers – and see what work of creative genius comes out. For a more professional look, there are many excellent card-making kits.
From cake decorating to easy origami animals for kids, there are so many creative activities that are not only fun, but also great for helping your child’s development. So the next time you’re wondering what to do on a rainy day – try any one of the above activities!
President Obama was in Alaska recently discussing the issues of climate change and energy conservation. He noted that we all needed to make changes so that our children won’t inherit a world that’s beyond fixing. But the fact of the matter is, kids already play a role in the health of our environment, and it will only get bigger as they get older.
All of us, including the littlest family members, can do our part to make life a little more eco-friendly. And studies show starting at a young age is the best way to get kids on board with living green.
Childhood Habits Stick Around for Life
Like food choices and exercise, the lifestyle habits that our little ones create when they are young will likely stick with them for life. Recent studies funded by the Food and Drug Administration and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that children can begin forming habits as early as infancy. These habits are likely to stick with a child throughout most of their life. The moral of the story is, the earlier you expose your kids to an eco-friendly lifestyle the better.
Now you may be thinking that your baby is still a little ways away from understanding how recycling differs from the regular trash. While this is true, they are still paying attention to your every move. In the early stages of life they are mirroring what they see you doing. Clearly people at the National Institutes of Health have kids because they have also noted that children don’t create habits on their own. It’s up to the family unit to set a good example and be consistent so that eco-friendly choices at home become second nature.
By teaching our kids to live a green lifestyle early on they’ll be more conscious of how their actions impact the world around them. They’ll also be super motivated to help others green up the way they live so that the cycle continues.
Eco-Friendly Habits All Kids Can Learn
Doctors at the University of Buffalo suggest that parents create an environment at home that supports healthy habits. With the right oversight and information kids of all ages can begin learning to live a more eco-friendly lifestyle.
One of the biggest impacts consumers can make is choosing to recycle rather than throw everything out in the garbage. Make this easy for kids by keeping a dedicated recycling container in your home. Explain to them what can and can’t go in the recycling, then for the next week or so monitor what they’re throwing out. You can even turn it into a game by having little ones select what goes into the trash versus the recycling after each meal.
Choose an Energy Plan Together
The more kids understand the way energy works and how it’s supplied to their home the easier it will be to help them understand why it can’t be taken for granted. If you live in a deregulated area you can choose your electric provider. This is a great opportunity to get your kids involved by letting them help you pick a provider and plan. They can get a better understanding of the costs and how some providers like EPCOR use renewable resources to create energy.
Keeping lights on when they aren’t needed and keeping electronics plugged in when they aren’t being used can be a serious electricity drain. Vampire energy can add up to 10% of a household’s electric bill. Kids can learn the importance of turning electronics and lights off by making it one of their daily chores. For example, make it a chore that each night before bed they have to check all electronics and lights in their room to make sure they are off and unplugged. You can make this even easier by using a smart power strip that cuts off power to multiple devices at once.
Wasting Less Food
Food waste is the second largest component of landfills. As it rots it releases methane into the environment. Not to mention the eco-footprint of food that has to be packaged and shipped. Kids have no idea how big an impact they make when they toss food out that’s half eaten. Time for composting! Set up a composting station and teach your kids what can be thrown out. Put the composter next to the recycling and regular garbage can so that they are always reminded that there are three places to put waste.
These days it’s all too easy to keep your kids occupied with a game on a tablet or smartphone — they’re mesmerized by the bright colors and noises, you have more free time to yourself. But there’s a simple, irreplaceable joy in teaching children more old-fashioned, hands-on activities like marbles, card games, and hide-and-seek. After all, these are the games we grew up with. Think of the joy we had in looking at the swirl of colors in a glass marble, or in finding a friend hidden behind a curtain. Don’t you want your kids to experience that same joy, interacting with the world around them, instead of staring at a screen?
If you can’t remember how to play marbles (or if you never played them yourself), there are loads of great guides online — and many include suggestions for lots of other, hands-on games, too.
Here are four great reasons to get your kids away from computer screens and involved in these kinds of activities:
- Your kids will develop better social skills — Too often, playing computer games is a solitary activity. But with marbles, sports, and other games, your kids will learn how to interact with their peers, whether it’s trying to flick each other’s marbles out of the ring or playing in a team in a relay.
- It’s great physical exercise — Games like marbles are a fun way for your kid to develop hand-eye coordination, and more physical activities like tag or climbing trees are good exercise for their muscles and cardiovascular systems. It’s certainly much healthier than swiping away at a touch-screen!
- Your kids will start to appreciate the world around them — Computer games create an artificial world that mesmerizes your kid’s attention, but we live in a real, physical world that your child shouldn’t be afraid to explore. If they’re outdoors breathing fresh air, laughing with friends, or admiring the visual beauty of a marble, they’re learning to savor all the wonderful things the world has to offer outside a computer screen.
- You can play with your kids, and create invaluable family time — There’s only so much parental bonding that can happen through a computer screen. But real-world activities, where you teach your kids how to flick a marble or shuffle a deck of cards, also make family memories that will last a lifetime.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with the occasional game on a tablet to keep the kids busy in a waiting room. But knowing how fun and simple it is to learn how to play marbles, there’s no excuse not to engage your children in the kinds of old-fashioned activities that are healthy for both their minds and bodies. The Internet is full of useful parenting tips — don’t hesitate to make the most of these resources, but once you’ve found what you’re looking for, get off the computer and start involving your kids in good old-fashioned fun!
When it comes to buying clothes for our kids, us moms know that things can get a little stressful. Children and shopping don’t mix, especially young kids, which is what makes buying your kid new clothes more difficult.
Obviously, we don’t always have to take our children shopping with us. If we know their size, we can pick up the bits they need when shopping solo. But, when they are in between sizes or you just aren’t sure what size they are, taking them shopping with you might be your only option.
It can be hard shopping with kids, but you can make things a little easier for yourself. Want to know how I make taking my kids clothes shopping a little bit easier? Yes – then keep reading, below:
Get underwear online
Underwear is one thing that is easy to gauge, so you can get that online. There is no point making the shopping trip any longer than it has to be, so buying underwear online is ideal.
There are lots of companies selling kid’s underwear, if you can, opt for fun underwear. Children can be fussy about their clothes, so the more fun they are, the better.
One of the most popular children’s sock companies is United Odd Socks – they’re socks are great – so make sure to check them out. Clothes with logos and pictures of their favorite characters on are always popular, so look out for underwear that has these on, as well.
Make a list beforehand
Before you head to the shops, sit down and create a list of every item that your child needs. As you go around, give your child the task of ticking each item off. This will not only ensure that you don’t forget anything, but it will also make shopping a little easier for your child.
Kids love having a job to do, so giving them a list to tick off is ideal. This will not only make them feel important, but it will also let them see how many more things you need to buy.
Shop on a Sunday
Malls are always at the busiest on a Saturday, so I always aim to do any clothes shopping with my kids on a Sunday. The fewer people there are in the mall, the less stressful shopping will be – trust me on this, I have learnt from experience.
Another benefit of shopping on a Sunday is that the shops aren’t open for as long as they are on a Saturday, this means that we shop faster. When you have kids in tow, the faster you get the clothes shopping done, the better.
Only get them to try on one item in each store
I find that while sizes can differ between different stores, in each store, the sizes of all their garments seems to be uniform. So in each store we go into, I get my children to try on a pair of trousers and a top each, and then that’s it.
All it takes to get their correct size is for them to try on one outfit – this makes things a lot easier. Kids hate trying different outfits on, so getting them to just try one outfit on in each store is a great trick to try.
Let them help you choose
Children enjoy clothes shopping a lot more if they feel that you are getting them involved. After all, it is them that has to wear the clothes, so they should have some choice, don’t you think?
Obviously, it’s up to you if you let your children help to choose their clothes, but I find it makes shopping with them a lot easier. You have ultimate control over the clothes that you choose to get them, but allowing them to help you makes the trip more enjoyable for them.
Shopping with kids can be stressful, but it doesn’t have to be. You can make shopping with the kids easier by following the simple tips in this guide.